How We Treat Others

I will place a firm warning right here: I have some strong opinions on how people are treating one another recently. And this post has some strong language in it. 


As we all know, the USA has had a new President since January of this year. He has made many bold and daring decisions. I don’t agree with most of them. I think the man is an ass. He is a 3 year old in the body of an adult, and he holds one of the most influential seats of power in the world.

But this post isn’t about him. Not directly, at least.

This is about how we, as humans, treat others humans. And how that has changed in the last year.

Yes, year. Because how people treat others has steadily gone downhill since Brexit in 2016.

That’s not to say we, as humans, have been doing a good job in the “be nice to others” catagory before then. I don’t think we’ve ever been good at that.

However, at least from my perspective, we were making progress. People were starting to understand that differences are not justifiable reasons for treating another human badly. Or at least they were pretending like they understood – maybe they just understood how socially unacceptable it was becoming.

However… 

Brexit started a wave of racism in the UK, much larger than previous years. And the election of Donald Trump just added to it, sending the wave rolling across the ocean to affect the people of North America.

Trump has simply added fuel to the fire, and somehow his racism is creating this strange reasoning amongst some folks, that its suddenly okay to be horrible to their black, Muslim, Hispanic or First Nations neighbours. 

I can only say this.

There are shitty Christians out there.

There are shitty Muslims out there.

There are shitty atheists out there.

Shitty Jews. Shitty Sikhs. Shitty Buddhists.

There are shitty humans everywhere. 

But there are also really nice Christians. Genuinely caring and loving Muslims. Atheists who will give a poor man on the street, the shoes off their own feet. Jews who will turn the other cheek and show kindness to those who speak poorly of them. Sikhs who gather en masse to donate blood every year, because it’s in them and other people need it to live. Buddhists who selflessly volunteer their time to help the elderly or feed the poor.

Shitty humans and nice humans. 

It doesn’t matter what religion you follow. What your ethnic background is.

It matters that you have the power to overcome the differences, and understand that at our core. The very essence of humanity is all the same.

We all want to love. To live and be happy. To have friends and to learn. To feel safe, and to feel respected.

We, as humans, in our day to day lives, need to look past the things that make us different, and remember that we are all the same.

Be nice to your fellow humans. That’s all I ask.

Easy Blinds to Curtains Upgrade!

When we bought our house last year, the sliding door to our back deck, came equipped with flat, plastic, slat blinds. 
They were boring. And not energy efficient at all.

Last winter wasn’t too cold, so loss of heat wasn’t a huge issue. But this year we’ve had 2 weeks of snow and ice, and every time you think it’ll melt with the rain, it just freezes overnight.

So, it was time to swap out those blind for some heavier curtains, and keep the heat inside better. Because giant windows are the worst for energy efficiency.

I set Bud up in his Exersaucer, and some Sesame Street and got to work!

I had previously hunted second hand stores for some decently priced panel curtains, and came away with a set of 2 Safari themed curtains for $11. I also scoured their curtain rod/accessories bags, and found these curtain hooks: 

They came in a bag of assorted sizes and conditions for $2. 

So far, $14 invested for a nice upgrade.

I had found a few ideas for changing things up, online, and realized I didn’t have to pull down all the hardware from the blinds, and could repurpose the pegs the blinds hang from, for the curtains!

As you can see they clip in and can be removed easily. The curtain hooks slip into them with ease as well.

So I attached all the hooks first, to the curtains.

I Iactually changed it after I took the picture, and moved them to the top row, since they needed to reach the floor and not have too much fabric at the top to interfear with movement.

If you’re using hooks like these, be careful, they are very sharp!

Once I was done evenly attaching the hooks across the back of the curtains, I simply hung the hooks from the pegs where the blinds previously were. There are 2 notches in the pegs to hold the blinds in, and I had to make sure to put the hooks above the top notch, otherwise they just fell out.

Considering I didn’t even pull out a ladder to put these up, I’d say this was one super simple upgrade, that not only looks good – it will save us money on our hydro bill each month as well!

What are some easy upgrades you’ve done to your home? Have you done anything to be more energy efficient and save money in the long run? 

Updates

Its been a while! 

Summer has passed, and fall is coming close to its end, my how the time has passed!

Bud will be 9 months old next week – it’s amazing all the things he is learning and discovering. It seems like there is something new each day!

He is crawling around every where and getting into mischief – and making me realize just how bad my house keeping skills are!

Now that he’s so much more mobile, I needed to step up and start baby proofing – I covered over our TV stand with clear vinyl a few months ago when a toddler was visiting – however, Bud has figured out how to pull it down to reach the cords he wants. I’m worrying that a whole different TV stand would be the best bet – but we need more storage anyways, it could be a good investment.

Over the summer we also started going to a new church. One of the girls iny baby group, invited us to her daughter’s dedication, and we instantly felt at home. We had been looking for a new home church for a while, and God must have felt it was time to settle again. The overwhelming welcome we felt when we started going, it was mind boggling. We have made many new friends, and have found ourselves entwined in church life so quickly. I took over posting on Facebook for the Church,my husband has gotten involved with worship and we’ve both joined a couple Bible study and prayer groups. I’ve stepped up the baking recently just for Bible studies!

Bud is enjoying it, since there’s many babies around his age. He loves to fall asleep during worship, and play in the baby room during preaching.

I also started taking part in NaNoWriMo again this year – although I’ve had to change my creative focus for a few days to prepare for D&D this weekend. I’ve taken over again as the DM of our little group. Paul graciously managed the group for me, so could adapt to life with our little Bud, and now that I’m starting to figure it out, I feel comfortable doing this again. Planning out an adventure is certainly challenging!

One other challenge I’ve been facing is getting everything done. I feel like I need 6 more hours in every day. Bud goes to bed at 7:30, and Paul goes to work at 10… So I stay up and write, read, play games, catch up on house work and so much more. I end up going to bed at 1 or 2… And Bud wakes up a short time later. My sleep is certainly lacking in the last few months.

Once Bud starts sleeping through the night, it will be alot easier, I think. I still crave the alone time after Paul goes to work, but I need to limit the extremely late bedtimes to once a week I think.

I’ll figure it out!

In the mean time, I’m planning on some cute Christmas gifts for the grandparents, and I’ll see if I can make a guide for them if they turn out okay!

Are you planning on DIY gifts this year?

Writing for Women

I’ve always wanted to write a novel, and maybe get it published. I’ve started a few dozen stories over the years, but never finished them.
My Father, a published author (in magazines and newspapers), shared this contest the other day, and it could be just the incentive I need to get a tale finished.
The Half the World Global Literati Award.
The award is encouraging writers of all genders, and anyone 13 and older, to write tales featuring women as the main characters.
Over the last few years, it’s been brought to my attention, that awards like The Hugos, and others like them, are dominated by men. Both the writers, and the characters they write about.
So this, even if I don’t actually enter, is my incentive to write.
Now, I just need to have time around a baby to actually do so.

Great Fluffy Butts – it’s a Baby!

In the last 2 months since I last wrote here, my little baby boy “Bud” came into this world.*
He is my precious little one, but it’s certainly been a challenge getting used to taking care of a baby.

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He was born Feb 9, at 10:32 AM, and weighed 8lbs 7oz. I had an emergency C-section, as my pelvic bone was too small to let him through – his heart rate was dropping and no matter how hard I pushed, he wouldn’t have made it through.

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I was too out of it by the time I went into surgery to really remember what happened – but my husband says he came out crying and then peed everywhere!

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He’s now 2 months old, and he’s grown so much!
He loves cuddles and eating – both breast milk and formula.

He’s started enjoying playtime on his play mat. It has a bar with animals and things to grab on to, attached over his head.

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Our dog, Star, is still unsure about him – but she sits at our feet while we’re changing him, and acts protective when other people hold him. He, on the other hand, has finally started recognising her. He smiled at her today when she was sitting next to him on the playmat.
He’ll be running around with her in no time!

*”Bud” is what I will be calling him on this blog. Simply for safety, and possibly not embarrassing him too much down the road. ūüėČ

Baby Waiting Game

Feb 2 was my due date for Cuddle Bug (what we’ve been calling the baby, while they’re hanging out in my belly.) – so now I’m playing the waiting game!

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Not actually my belly.

At my weekly checkup today, I was told I’m not quite dilated. Which tells me it’s something under 1 cm. Which is better than last week, when there was nothing at all.

I’ve had random contractions on and off the last few days though, so I’m crossing my fingers and hoping CB makes an appearance in the next few days. Preferably Friday or Saturday.

Husband wants baby to outright not show up on Sunday – because Superbowl is that day. However, since none of his teams are actually in this year, I’m sure the world won’t end if baby does decide to show up then.

If baby waits till Monday, they’ll be born in the new Chinese New Year – they’ll be a Monkey Baby! Before then, they’re a¬†Sheep! Monkey’s are supposed to be smart and clever, and Sheep are supposed to be quiet and artsy – I’m not sure which I would prefer, haha.

Until baby does show up, I am keeping myself busy, organizing their room, washing baby clothing, and making sure the house is as ready for a baby as I can make it… I don’t know how to prepare us for baby, aside from reading lots of blogs and books – so we might as well be ready in other ways.

Every day also involves a walk, usually with the dog, and constant reminders to drink plenty of water. As much as I want to be a lump on a log, and just play video games, there are too many things to get done before CB arrives, and I’ve put them off too long already.

If you have had children, what did you do to distract yourself until your baby (or babies!) made their appearance?


 

Image borrowed from Crafter Hours

Geek Cloth Diapers: Melissa’s Makes

When I found out I was pregnant, one of the first things I decided on, was that I was going to cloth diaper my sweet baby’s bum.

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Funky Fluff Diapers and Accessories

There are various reasons for doing this. My personal reasons are for saving money and producing less waste.

In trying to save money, I searched high and low to find the best deals for the highest quality diapers.

Of course, in my search, I also discovered how many adorable patterns there are out there for diapers. And then I made the mistake of looking on Etsy.

Etsy, the bane of every wallet, but a wealth of geeky baby items.

My favorite shop to sit and drool over, is Melissa’s Makes, based in Ontario, Canada.

She makes loads of adorable diapers Рnewborn sizes, All-in-ones, and pocket style, all with sweet and awesome patterns and designs. Her prices are assorted, depending on the style of diaper, and the fabric pattern.

Above you can see a small sampling of her pocket designs. My favorites are the Galaxy design, and the silver – which, I’m certain would basically give your baby a disco ball bum. Which would be awesome.

A specialty of the shop, these¬†are some of her “Miniloones” and “Maxiloones,” also known as “Grow with me” pants. These pants are great for fitting over cloth diapers, and looking adorable at the same time. The Science Miniloones are adorable, and a great way to encourage science from a young age! And, as a big Doctor Who fan, I assure you, I will be picking up those fantastic Tardis print pants, once baby is born!

If you don’t see patterns you like, she’s also open to custom designs!

Please, check Melissa’s Makes out on Etsy, or on Facebook! She’s super nice, and lovely to deal with!